I agree with your article from the perspective of growth. On the other hand: bullies. We must be careful about the attitude of “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, and whether we are getting that from a personal desire for growth or an external controlling factor or even marketing environment. Bullies are good at harvesting our problems for their own uses: taking advantage of our desire to solve problems (basic human cleverness/pattern-seeking) and leaving us depleted and alone. Most people can recover and move on, but usually the System of exploitation systems favors the bullies that create problems and hoard physical and emotional resources for themselves. To some, that’s the only “leadership” they’ve ever known, so they vote/marry/work for more of it.