I’m sympathetic to your plight, even though I’m 6'4. My first wife was 5'2 and really got peeved at the ‘girl’ treatment. My brother’s wife is 5' even. She’s always been short, but not diminished. In a room full of tall people, she’s usually in command. Her mother was the same way: a widow who took over running the farm when her husband left her with pretty much nothing but responsibility and a clan of kids to feed.
On the other end of the spectrum, I’m glad to reach for things for anyone who asks, but I’m tired of hitting my head on shit, so to all of those car and house engineers: look up! ;)
I recommend you get yourself a motorcycle. Some companies have worked to meet your needs. People treat each other more equally when you’re wearing armor and a helmet instead of neotonizing ‘fashion’.