There’s a lot here that could lead to essays in themselves. The intimacy of sporadic association friends who don’t cling or expect anything, the absence of close life-long community ties, the expectations of living as an older person and the delusions of life expectancy without participation (the demand on someone else to care about your own needs), and just the ability to enjoy the present and the place without comparing it or competing always. Yup, lots of good stuff here to cogitate about.
There’s always the conditioned perceptions of what we believe people ‘should’ be or do, and how much we are allowed to question those perceptions, or if some of us even know how to try. When people exchange their lives for money, they rarely understand that it can’t be bought back, and there certainly isn’t a system telling them not to sell when they are young and immortal.